Sex and sexuality

This is my view on sex and sexuality and I don't expect others to agree with me.

When I grew up I was an over sexual child, this might seem funny to people to hear this but I have a lot of sexuality and I grew up in a time when that was frowned upon. I was made to feel that sex is a dirty thing and if you enjoyed it well that was just plain wrong. So I had a lot of guilt around my sexuality and the fact that I enjoyed sex.

It was years later in my late 30's in fact that i realized that sex is a wonderful, pleasurable experience and there is no guilt attached to enjoying sex. If you enjoy sex and you have a partner that is also amazing at it and enjoys it as much as you then the experience is that much more intense.

Having sex with someone is a give and take situation, you give as much as what you get and it is a mind blowing experience.

I have had partners that just don't give they want all the pleasure but is not prepared to give pleasure as well and then it feels totally wrong. I belief that is when it starts feeling dirty and the guilt can set in.

I was brought up with the idea that if you have sex with someone else except your husband it is because you are looking for approval and I actually bought into that concept. Today I realize it has nothing to do with looking for approval.

I have had a lover that was so intense in giving me pleasure that I belief I became addicted to the experience of having an orgasm and it spoiled me by me having partners after him that just was horrible and the act became a release at some level but not what I wanted.

Now I have met someone that has the same view as myself and once again the act of making love is an amazing experience.

Being a very sexual being I view sex very important indeed in my life and I could not understand that both my husbands was A-sexual well that is until last night when I was told that I chose men that was the opposite to me and wham!! the light bulb was switched on for me in a big way! If they were the opposite to me then yes they would be a-sexual as I am so sexual.

It was not my fault that they did not like sex as I firmly believed and damn that screwed me up for a very long time in my life. I believed that I was not attractive to men and it made me very insecure. Now my friend and lover has shown me that it was not me but them, they could not help that they were the way that they were and that their libido was non existent.

I am enjoying my life and being with someone else is a lot of fun but I really enjoy my own company the most. It makes me appreciate being with someone that much more. I think that knowing that I can be with someone that appreciates all different types of lovemaking is going to be just the most amazing time ahead and my wish is that more people can experience this without that horrible guilt that loves to pop out its head.

Guilt has no opposite and once again this is my view and opinion and therefore if there is no opposite to guilt then guilt does not exist.

I belief guilt was created by people who with guilt and making others feel guilty control other people. It is so easy to play the martyr and by doing that you so wrap another person in guilt that they will do whatever you want them to do. So remember people there is no such thing as guilt and if you feel guilty it is because that is a way other people control you and make you do things that you don't really want to do. So let it go!

Well that is me for now, have a wonderful day and let the sun shine on you.